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My husband and I got married a
year ago. It is his 1st marriage at 39 years of age. In the
two years we have been together, he has without warning physically
and emotionally abandoned me six times, anywhere from overnight to
more than two months. He says he aches he craves me so much, yet he
abandons me repeatedly.
He says all women have 'thrown
him to the curb with the garbage' when they are done with him. He
says I am too good to be true, he's just waiting 'for the ax to
fall'. He says he leaves before he gets kicked out. He kisses and
nuzzles me in the morning, and then abandons me at the end of the
He swings from overly sweet to
verbally so angry it is shocking. He is the drama king, everything
and everyone is stressful or frustrating. He has humiliated me in public,
reaching in my shirt to my breasts in a mall food court, lifting my
skirt while crossing on a main street intersection
He seems to be overly sexed, at
one point three times a night, constantly stating how important
it is for him to know that I am available sexually.
He constantly states his self
importance: "I'm so kind", "I'm so
generous", "I'm so ethical", "my work is
so good", "I'm a well known public figure" type of
comments. He constantly is begging for compliments, to a point where
it is a turn off, almost childlike. He is emotionally immature and
Through his abandonment he has
destroyed his relationship with my 13 year old son. My son is an
honor student, but still a teenager with typical teenage comments
and behaviors. My husband blames my son as the reason he left
He is angry if I don't work and
make money, he is angry if I do work and am not instantly available
for his phone calls. He is financially controlling, there is
no joint account or credit cards, no co-mingled funds. The
money he does contribute to household expenses, he makes me account
for as if I am a child. He either calls me 5 times a day, or
'punishes' by not calling at all.
He has no long term friends or
any real social circle. Calls people friends, and then says I
didn't realize they've had two children ...
His family is a mess. His
sister in therapy for 30 years, himself for more than ten years. He
says he could care less if his mother was dead or alive, then he
goes to great extreme to show involvement in unreasonable
errands for her. He says his mother 'emotionally' abandoned him at
age 7-8. He says he went the longest distance to college to get away
from her. He says his mother let his older brother beat him, and
then blamed him.
He hid his religion from
me, then later claimed it was so important that it was one of the
reasons he left.
He lies, even the smallest
His male kung fu teacher seems
to be strangely overly important to him.
He has a huge need to be
humorous, often making up his own jokes (that are not funny) then
when people don't laugh, he blames them for not getting it.
He used the term
"narcissistic personality" and defined it to me,
apparently after one of his counseling sessions
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